Reasons to Elope
More and more couples decide to choose an elopement over a traditional wedding. If you’re not sure whether you want to elope or not, this blog might help you decide. You can strip away all the pressure, anxiety, traditions or obligations that come with planning a traditional wedding. It doesn’t matter where you go, what you’re doing or who you are doing it with. It’s about bringing the focus back to the two of you.
Reason 1 to elope:
1. You want to skip traditions and expectations
Weddings are done for ages and carry a lot of traditions. Your family might expect a certain wedding when you get engaged. If that doesn’t resonate with you, an elopement is an easy way out. It offers freedom to create your own day, with or without traditions. Your day, your rules. Focus on how you and your partner want it, without anyone else’s opinion how you ‘should’ do it. And yes, if you elope you might have to deal with friends or family members who are upset because they can’t be there. But there are ways to deal with that as well.
Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. Your goal should be to make it feel right for right now. Later will take care of itself. It always does.
2. You hate being the center of attention
As a wedding photographer, I experience this a lot. My couples can’t wait to see each other, but some are anxious about being the center of attention the whole day. If you’re more an introvert person, an elopement might be the answer. Public speaking makes people nervous in general, and saying your vows makes you very vulnerable. It’s beautiful to do it in front of all the people you love, but if you’re more anxious about the crowd than the vows, an elopement might be less overwhelming to you.
Some states even let you Self Solemnize, which means you can marry yourselves. No Judge or officiant needed! Talk about private ceremony! If you’re wanting to get married in a state that doesn’t allow Self Solemnization, I am ordained to be your sign your marriage license! The two of you can conduct your ceremony and I will sign the marriage certificate.
3. You want an intimate, authentic day
That’s enough reason to elope! As we said above, elopements are much more intimate than an elaborate wedding. Maybe you find that intimacy much more romantic. Sit down with a glass of wine and start picturing your ideal wedding. Where would it be? Who will be with you? Imagine getting hitched in a more private setting, reading vows, taking photos, followed by a magical 1001 candlelit dinner with only the people you love the most, an elopement could be the perfect move.
4. You have a tight budget
Most of the wedding budget goes to the guests. Which makes sense, because you want everyone to experience a day full of love. But when you give all your guests the full experience, the rates for food, drinks, entertainment and a huge venue to hold it all can get really high. If you choose to elope and only invite a few of your closest friends and family – or none at all – you can save a lot and spend more on photography, flowers and your own accommodations.
5. It’s less of a production
You won’t have to worry about people getting drunk and making a scene. There’s no setting up, breaking down, buying favors, dealing with catering, arranging transportation and lodging for 200 guests. With an elopement all you have to do is pick a place, date and who you want there. Easy-peasy- lemon- squeeze.
So, if eloping sound more up your alley, do it! If your friends and family give you grief, trust me, they will get over it. Once they see your beautiful photos and hear your amazing stories of your special day, they will understand (and maybe even be jealous that they didn’t elope). If you're ready to get the party started contact me to get going!
